Sunday, July 8, 2018

Giving Satan the Middle Finger

Tonight as we were reading scriptures from the "Ites" book, we talked about how Satan won't support us for following him and he will leave us to fall when it comes down to it, as he did to Korihor. You said, "When I see Satan after I die, I'm going to do this!" and you stuck up your middle finger. Which led Josh to do the same. It was hard for us not to laugh because we really weren't expecting it but we also definitely wanted to let you know that it isn't okay to do that.

Monday, March 12, 2018

Your Baptism

Dear Oliver,

You were baptized yesterday! It was an exciting day for our family. A few things I will remember:

  • You had lots of family and friends there to support you, including Grandma Utah from Utah, Grandma and Grandpa Schultz, Aunt Meagan, Abby and Avery from Texas, Wayne and Lily an their family from Cottonwood, Levi and Amalie (who live in Gilbert, AZ), Dad and Dot from San Diego, and some friends from school (AJ Anderson, Christan Daniels and your best friend, Carlos Luna (who joined us for lunch at the park after the baptism). Many others wish they could have been there, including Aunt Lindsey (who lives in Utah) and Aunt Mamie and Uncle Geoff (who are in Greece right now).
  • You were baptized with Asher Balinski, whose grandparents are in our ward (but Asher lives in Wisconsin). The Balinski Family thought the baptism was being held at the Stake Center so by the time they got to the right place, we were running behind and had to rush things a bit (because another ward was after us for with another baptism).
  • Watching Dad baptize you truly brought joy to my heart and tears to my eyes. You may not know that feeling until you baptize your own child. It is emotional. I am grateful you have a father who is worthy to hold the Priesthood and was able to baptize you. Dad told me he could tell you felt connected to him after being baptized in the dressing room and on in the chapel for the remainder of the service. 
  • The blessing Dad gave you when he confirmed the Gift of the Holy Ghost on you was beautiful. I don't remember everything he said but I remember he talked about the Holy Ghost being the greatest gift we have here on earth, which I agree with. I am grateful for this gift and know I would be lost without it. I am grateful you have been given this gift to guide, comfort, warn and protect you and to confirm truth. 
  • We met at a park up the street after your baptism for lunch. You had fun playing with your cousins and friends. Dad brought his drone and that was a big hit. It got stuck in a tree at one point. 
  • Josh accidentally locked Norah and the babies in the Tahoe and him and me out of it before we left for the park. I was a little stressed so it took me a few minutes to realize that although Norah couldn't undo her carseat belt, she could reach over and unlock the door. 
  • I slipped and fell while trying to get the babies' carseats out of the Tahoe and bruised my knee and my ribcage.
  • We had dinner that evening at Grandma and Grandpa Schultz's home. You had a blast playing with your cousins.

I am very proud of you for taking this step to follow Jesus Christ's example by being baptized. You are an amazing kid and we love you so much. 

Love, Mom

Sunday, February 25, 2018

January / February 2018

  • You have set yourself apart from your siblings by calling them "the kids." You don't consider yourself a kid anymore. 
  • We taught you and Josh how to clean and make the babies' bottles. You guys are such great helpers!
  • One night as you were laying in bed and I was tickling your back, you said, "I'm so glad I have a mom and a dad." (I wonder if maybe some of your friends at school are talking about their parents being separated.)
  • You gave us quite a scare. After all of you kids were in bed, I went into our bathroom to brush my teeth and saw the Children's Tylenol bottle near the edge of the counter. I thought that was weird because I didn't remember putting it there. I picked it up and it felt it was empty. Then I started to panic. I knew the other kids didn't know how to open the safety lid but that you did. I told Dad and we woke you up to ask you about it. You said you had "a few sips" but we didn't know how much was in there to begin with or how much you really had. I called Poison Control and was told that even if you drank the whole bottle, you would be okay. We were ready to go to the ER but luckily we didn't have to. We talked with you about the seriousness of the situation and you started to cry. I think you felt pretty badly about it. 
  • You have been a good helper lately. One night I asked Josh several times to go upstairs and get in his pjs. (I think it was so you guys could go on a walk with Dad and then be all ready for bed once you got back.) He wasn't doing it so you ran upstairs and got them for him. After you were out of earshot, Josh said, "Oliver is a good helper." "You should tell him that," I said. "He already knows," Josh said. Another time, you helped Eleanor change out of her pull up. Eleanor exclaimed, "Oliver is the best! I love him!"
  • You eat bell peppers like they are apples. 

We went to the zoo as a family in January. There was a fun Dinosaurs in the Desert Exhibit. We had a great time.

Wednesday, January 31, 2018

November / December 2017

  • You said, "When I get older, me, Dad and Josh will be working at, like Cub Scouts and stuff, and you and Eleanor will be working around the house, and we'll make so much money for our family." [This was kind of funny but I do think we need to talk about gender equality and role expectations.]
  • You told me, "Mom, I'm trying really hard to control my emotions." I can tell you really are trying hard. 

  • You said, "I have an opinion. I think Nathan and Zachary feel the Spirit a lot." 
  • I was recently asked to describe my relationship with my kids using three words. The words I chose: "loving, intentional, and enduring." 

September / October 2017

Dear Oliver,

Time is flying by. A few things to note lately:


You and Josh were playing in the backyard. I looked out the back door and saw you guys trying to pick up some cinder blocks and put them in a wheel barrow. You told Josh that if you guys showed your muscles, you would be able to do it. You both tightened your fists and clenched put them up by your faces, flexing your muscles. I wished I could take a picture with my eyes at that moment. It was pretty awesome.


  • Grandma Utah came for Halloween this year and went Trick-or-Treating with us. You were so excited to be a Ninja. 

*Add pictures*

  • Dad and Josh went bowling for a "buddy night" with just them. You were sad, crying and missing them at bedtime. I sat on your bed and talk with you. "You have a sensitive heart, don't you Buddy?" I asked. "I mostly have a sensitive everything," you said. 
  • You and Josh call hand sanitizer "hanitizer."
  • You LOVE ice. You eat it all the time.
  • You had some tests done on your heart recently. You went in for surgery on your penis (your urethra opening was abnormally small, so you weren't able to empty your bladder all the way when you would pee, and therefore you had to go very frequently, which was disruptive at school. The surgery was to open the urethra opening more.) Before administering anesthesia, the surgeon conducted a standard test on your heart. He heard irregular heart beats and a murmur, so they cancelled the surgery for that day and referred you to a Cardiologist. The Cardiologist (Dr. Ravi) gave you an echogram test and didn't have any concerns with that but also had you wear one for 24 hours at home. That one showed your resting heart rate was 39-40 in the middle of the night but Dr. Ravi said it's nothing to worry about, as long as it's normal when you're active. You also have a light heart murmur. He said to follow up in a year.  
September 2017 (The babies are two months old.)

Friday, September 15, 2017

Meeting your brothers

Dear Oliver,

On July 31, 2017 we welcomed your brothers, Nathan and Zachary into our family. It was too late that night for Grandma Utah to bring you guys up to meet them but you were able to see them the next morning. It was so fun to see you, Josh and Norah see Nathan and Zachary for the first time. 

Right before delivering your brothers. 
Nathan (Baby A) was born first at 7:14 pm.

Zachary (Baby B) was born twelve minutes later, at 7:26 pm.

I love this picture of dad holding the babies.
I love this picture of you holding Zachary. 

I know you're going to be a wonderful big brother to these babies and I'm so grateful to have you to help me.

Love, Mom

Wednesday, May 10, 2017

May / June 2017

Dear Oliver,

I can't believe there are only a couple of weeks left of school before summer and then you will be a second grader! Time is going by so quickly. 

Such a cute kid! 7 years old March 2017

Things have been pretty challenging this year. You have a lot of strong emotions that are difficult to control. It's difficult to see you so upset and hurting so consistently. You get very angry and frustrated, especially at me. This year we have seen several professionals. You are currently in group therapy with some other kids your age, and you seem to enjoy it. Weekly topics include things like understanding others' feelings, controlling emotions, speaking kindly, etc. I am trying so hard to help you but feel like I fall short a lot. You get really upset at me and say things I know you don't mean. Almost daily. ("I know you're in my heart but I feel like I don't love you." "I didn't even miss you that much when I was on the campout.") Tonight as I tucked you into bed, you sat up on your knees and said, "I'm sorry" and gave me a hug. The other night, you yelled at me that you hate me and that I'm the worst mom ever. The next morning, you said, "Sorry I yelled at you. I just lost my mind." Sometimes there is contention between us and things are hard but I hope you know I love you so much and would do anything for you. I see so many strengths in you: you are caring, sensitive, smart, thoughtful (you often get something extra for Josh when you get something for yourself), you love to draw, you are social and friendly, you are kind to animals, outgoing and fun, your go-to in times of distress is to pray for help.


Josh said his legs hurt. I told him it could be growing pains. Then you said, "Maybe that's why my tummy hurts a lot. It's growing and makes my appetite hurt." (I feel badly that you get stomach aches a lot. I think it's anxiety related. Poor kid.)

Pictures from Easter a few weeks ago:

Pictures from Easter: 

You shaved your head yourself, unknown to us, to "be like Daddy." 

Keeping it real. :)

I love you Buddy!

Love, Mom