Wednesday, January 31, 2018

November / December 2017

  • You said, "When I get older, me, Dad and Josh will be working at, like Cub Scouts and stuff, and you and Eleanor will be working around the house, and we'll make so much money for our family." [This was kind of funny but I do think we need to talk about gender equality and role expectations.]
  • You told me, "Mom, I'm trying really hard to control my emotions." I can tell you really are trying hard. 

  • You said, "I have an opinion. I think Nathan and Zachary feel the Spirit a lot." 
  • I was recently asked to describe my relationship with my kids using three words. The words I chose: loving, intentional, and enduring." 

September / October 2017

Dear Oliver,

Time is flying by. A few things to note lately:


You and Josh were playing in the backyard. I looked out the back door and saw you guys trying to pick up some cinder blocks and put them in a wheel barrow. You told Josh that if you guys showed your muscles, you would be able to do it. You both tightened your fists and clenched put them up by your faces, flexing your muscles. I wished I could take a picture with my eyes at that moment. It was pretty awesome.


  • Grandma Utah came for Halloween this year and went Trick-or-Treating with us. You were so excited to be a Ninja. 

*Add pictures*

  • Dad and Josh went bowling for a "buddy night" with just them. You were sad, crying and missing them at bedtime. I sat on your bed and talk with you. "You have a sensitive heart, don't you Buddy?" I asked. "I mostly have a sensitive everything," you said. 
  • You and Josh call hand sanitizer "hanitizer."
  • You LOVE ice. You eat it all the time.
  • You had some tests done on your heart recently. You went in for surgery on your penis (your urethra opening was abnormally small, so you weren't able to empty your bladder all the way when you would pee, and therefore you had to go very frequently, which was disruptive at school. The surgery was to open the urethra opening more.) Before administering anesthesia, the surgeon conducted a standard test on your heart. He heard irregular heart beats and a murmur, so they cancelled the surgery for that day and referred you to a Cardiologist. The Cardiologist (Dr. Ravi) gave you an echogram test and didn't have any concerns with that but also had you wear one for 24 hours at home. That one showed your resting heart rate was 39-40 in the middle of the night but Dr. Ravi said it's nothing to worry about, as long as it's normal when you're active. You also have a light heart murmur. He said to follow up in a year.  
September 2017 (The babies are two months old.)

Friday, September 15, 2017

Meeting your brothers

Dear Oliver,

On July 31, 2017 we welcomed your brothers, Nathan and Zachary into our family. It was too late that night for Grandma Utah to bring you guys up to meet them but you were able to see them the next morning. It was so fun to see you, Josh and Norah see Nathan and Zachary for the first time. 

Right before delivering your brothers. 
Nathan (Baby A) was born first at 7:14 pm.

Zachary (Baby B) was born twelve minutes later, at 7:26 pm.

I love this picture of dad holding the babies.
I love this picture of you holding Zachary. 

I know you're going to be a wonderful big brother to these babies and I'm so grateful to have you to help me.

Love, Mom

Wednesday, May 10, 2017

May / June 2017

Dear Oliver,

I can't believe there are only a couple of weeks left of school before summer and then you will be a second grader! Time is going by so quickly. 

Such a cute kid! 7 years old March 2017

Things have been pretty challenging this year. You have a lot of strong emotions that are difficult to control. It's difficult to see you so upset and hurting so consistently. You get very angry and frustrated, especially at me. This year we have seen several professionals. You are currently in group therapy with some other kids your age, and you seem to enjoy it. Weekly topics include things like understanding others' feelings, controlling emotions, speaking kindly, etc. I am trying so hard to help you but feel like I fall short a lot. You get really upset at me and say things I know you don't mean. Almost daily. ("I know you're in my heart but I feel like I don't love you." "I didn't even miss you that much when I was on the campout.") Tonight as I tucked you into bed, you sat up on your knees and said, "I'm sorry" and gave me a hug. The other night, you yelled at me that you hate me and that I'm the worst mom ever. The next morning, you said, "Sorry I yelled at you. I just lost my mind." Sometimes there is contention between us and things are hard but I hope you know I love you so much and would do anything for you. I see so many strengths in you: you are caring, sensitive, smart, thoughtful (you often get something extra for Josh when you get something for yourself), you love to draw, you are social and friendly, you are kind to animals, outgoing and fun, your go-to in times of distress is to pray for help.


Josh said his legs hurt. I told him it could be growing pains. Then you said, "Maybe that's why my tummy hurts a lot. It's growing and makes my appetite hurt." (I feel badly that you get stomach aches a lot. I think it's anxiety related. Poor kid.)

Pictures from Easter a few weeks ago:

Pictures from Easter: 

You shaved your head yourself, unknown to us, to "be like Daddy." 

Keeping it real. :)

I love you Buddy!

Love, Mom

Sunday, February 5, 2017

January 2017

  • I introduced you guys to the Beatles' music. Later, when I put the cd on again, you said, "Oh yeah, is this the caterpillar one?" Pretty cute. 
  • January 12, 2017 is a very prominent day in our family. This is the day we found out we're having twins! We knew we had a baby on the way but had no idea there were two in there. You are excited and hope it's a boy and a girl so you can have another brother and sister. 
The ultrasound picture from 1/12/17. 

An updated picture from last week. I love how it looks like Baby B is waving.

  • One night, you came upstairs and brought me two raviolis on a plate. "One for each baby!" you said. Sweet boy.
  • The other day you said to me, "Mom, you're my BFF." It was so sweet and made me smile. 
  • You've been meeting with a therapist, David, who specializes in helping kids manage their anger and emotions. I think it is helping. You seem to like meeting with him and especially that it's just us going to the appointments (I don't bring the other kids). 
  • You helped Dad lay synthetic grass in our backyard last month. This was Dad's Christmas present to me. It looks so good! 

You and Josh with our neighbor, who helped with the grass. 

  • You love bike rides with Dad, or even on your own down to the corner and back. You love riding your bike.
  • You are doing great in school. We're proud of you. We love you!

Love, Mom

Friday, December 30, 2016

Overdue for an update

Dear Oliver,

This update is long overdue.


  • I asked you and Josh to put the cushions back on the couch. You said to Josh, "We will listen to Mom for she is our captain." That made me laugh.
  • One day you exclaimed to me, "Norah is so cute how she has one little eye and one normal eye. We're lucky!" That melted my heart and brought a huge smile to my face. 
  • One day when you were feeling frustrated, you exclaimed, "I hate patience!" 
  • You accidentally kicked your ball into the neighbor's yard. When we went to get it, you saw they were hispanic and said "Gracious" when they handed it to you instead of "Thank you." I thought that was pretty awesome. 
  • You started meeting with a Psychologist, Dr. Prince, at the end of this month. You have difficulty controlling your emotions and get angry a lot. We want to help you so we're trying this out. You seem to like meeting with him. It seems like you appreciate that we are trying to help you. You liked your first meeting with him and especially liked our 1:1 time together afterward for ice cream. 
  • When I was volunteering in your classroom recently, your teacher, Mrs. Feerer, asked me if you're a vegetarian. You had apparently told your teacher and classmates that you're a vegetarian because you like vegetables. :) You definitely eat meat (even though I don't eat much of it myself) but I love that you love veggies too. You're such a great eater. I'm so proud of you. 
Eleanor gets so excited when she gets to see you after school. She loves you. 
Captain Hook, a pirate and Tinkerbell

Carving pumpkins with Grandma & Grandpa Schultz

You lost your second tooth on Halloween. Very exciting!

  • In one of your prayers this month, you said, "We're thankful for freedom, for our flag, for our country, for bugs, and people to play with." That made me smile.
  • I asked you if you wanted Puffins (cereal) for breakfast. You replied, "Puffins just aren't my thing." 
  • When you were frustrate with me one day, you said, "You and me have a hard time on earth." It makes me sad that we sometimes have conflict and get frustrated with each other but on the other hand, I love your eternal perspective in this statement. I hope you know how much I love you, no matter what, even when we have hard days. 

Thursday, December 29, 2016

September - December 2016



  • You said to me, "I love you Mom. If I had a different mom, I would love her." 


  • "Daddy is at another meeting? They're just trying to keep him from me! Wednesday is a half day for me so I'm like 'Yay' but then Daddy has meetings so it doesn't matter. I never get to spend time with him. He's always at camp outs and meetings." 
  • "I'm so glad I'm in this family. And two things I want to say to you Mom: you're the most helpful one in this family and I love you."