Friday, September 15, 2017

Meeting your brothers

Dear Oliver,

On July 31, 2017 we welcomed your brothers, Nathan and Zachary into our family. It was too late that night for Grandma Utah to bring you guys up to meet them but you were able to see them the next morning. It was so fun to see you, Josh and Norah see Nathan and Zachary for the first time. 

Right before delivering your brothers. 
Nathan (Baby A) was born first at 7:14 pm.

Zachary (Baby B) was born twelve minutes later, at 7:26 pm.

I love this picture of dad holding the babies.
I love this picture of you holding Zachary. 

I know you're going to be a wonderful big brother to these babies and I'm so grateful to have you to help me.

Love, Mom

Wednesday, May 10, 2017

May 2017

Dear Oliver,

I can't believe there are only a couple of weeks left of school before summer and then you will be a second grader! Time is going by so quickly. 

Such a cute kid! 7 years old March 2017

Things have been pretty challenging this year. You have a lot of strong emotions that are difficult to control. It's difficult to see you so upset and hurting so consistently. You get very angry and frustrated, especially at me. This year we have seen several professionals. You are currently in group therapy with some other kids your age, and you seem to enjoy it. Weekly topics include things like understanding others' feelings, controlling emotions, speaking kindly, etc. I am trying so hard to help you but feel like I fall short a lot. You get really upset at me and say things I know you don't mean. Almost daily. ("I know you're in my heart but I feel like I don't love you." "I didn't even miss you that much when I was on the campout.") Tonight as I tucked you into bed, you sat up on your knees and said, "I'm sorry" and gave me a hug. The other night, you yelled at me that you hate me and that I'm the worst mom ever. The next morning, you said, "Sorry I yelled at you. I just lost my mind." Sometimes there is contention between us and things are hard but I hope you know I love you so much and would do anything for you. I see so many strengths in you: you are caring, sensitive, smart, thoughtful (you often get something extra for Josh when you get something for yourself), you love to draw, you are social and friendly, you are kind to animals, outgoing and fun, your go-to in times of distress is to pray for help.  

Pictures from Easter a few weeks ago:

Pictures from Easter: 

Keeping it real. :)

I love you Buddy!

Love, Mom

Sunday, February 5, 2017

January 2017

  • I introduced you guys to the Beatles' music. Later, when I put the cd on again, you said, "Oh yeah, is this the caterpillar one?" Pretty cute. 
  • January 12, 2017 is a very prominent day in our family. This is the day we found out we're having twins! We knew we had a baby on the way but had no idea there were two in there. You are excited and hope it's a boy and a girl so you can have another brother and sister. 
The ultrasound picture from 1/12/17. 

An updated picture from last week. I love how it looks like Baby B is waving.

  • One night, you came upstairs and brought me two raviolis on a plate. "One for each baby!" you said. Sweet boy.
  • The other day you said to me, "Mom, you're my BFF." It was so sweet and made me smile. 
  • You've been meeting with a therapist, David, who specializes in helping kids manage their anger and emotions. I think it is helping. You seem to like meeting with him and especially that it's just us going to the appointments (I don't bring the other kids). 
  • You helped Dad lay synthetic grass in our backyard last month. This was Dad's Christmas present to me. It looks so good! 

You and Josh with our neighbor, who helped with the grass. 

  • You love bike rides with Dad, or even on your own down to the corner and back. You love riding your bike.
  • You are doing great in school. We're proud of you. We love you!

Love, Mom

Friday, December 30, 2016

Overdue for an update

Dear Oliver,

This update is long overdue.


  • I asked you and Josh to put the cushions back on the couch. You said to Josh, "We will listen to Mom for she is our captain." That made me laugh.
  • One day you exclaimed to me, "Norah is so cute how she has one little eye and one normal eye. We're lucky!" That melted my heart and brought a huge smile to my face. 
  • One day when you were feeling frustrated, you exclaimed, "I hate patience!" 
  • You accidentally kicked your ball into the neighbor's yard. When we went to get it, you saw they were hispanic and said "Gracious" when they handed it to you instead of "Thank you." I thought that was pretty awesome. 
  • You started meeting with a Psychologist, Dr. Prince, at the end of this month. You have difficulty controlling your emotions and get angry a lot. We want to help you so we're trying this out. You seem to like meeting with him. It seems like you appreciate that we are trying to help you. You liked your first meeting with him and especially liked our 1:1 time together afterward for ice cream. 
  • When I was volunteering in your classroom recently, your teacher, Mrs. Feerer, asked me if you're a vegetarian. You had apparently told your teacher and classmates that you're a vegetarian because you like vegetables. :) You definitely eat meat (even though I don't eat much of it myself) but I love that you love veggies too. You're such a great eater. I'm so proud of you. 
Eleanor gets so excited when she gets to see you after school. She loves you. 
Captain Hook, a pirate and Tinkerbell

Carving pumpkins with Grandma & Grandpa Schultz

You lost your second tooth on Halloween. Very exciting!

  • In one of your prayers this month, you said, "We're thankful for freedom, for our flag, for our country, for bugs, and people to play with." That made me smile.
  • I asked you if you wanted Puffins (cereal) for breakfast. You replied, "Puffins just aren't my thing." 
  • When you were frustrate with me one day, you said, "You and me have a hard time on earth." It makes me sad that we sometimes have conflict and get frustrated with each other but on the other hand, I love your eternal perspective in this statement. I hope you know how much I love you, no matter what, even when we have hard days. 

Sunday, August 14, 2016

To the one like me...

My wonderful, determined, smart, happy, charismatic, energetic, creative, outgoing, faith-filled sensitive and I, we don't always get along as well as I would like. We are both "strong-willed," which I like to call determined, in our ideas and desires. Sometimes we both struggle with patience. We honestly butt heads a lot due to this. Today you lied to me (twice), which is frustrating since we've talked a lot about it lately. I didn't let you play outside for a while afterward, on account of the lying, and you were pretty upset about it. You told me you hate being around me and then slammed the baby gate and some doors. You later told me you wish you had a stepmom. I don't think you meant it in a hurtful way but it did sting a little. Tonight as I tucked you into bed, you told me you were sorry for being rude and disrespectful today. That is another thing we have in common, sweet boy. We always say we're sorry. You put your arms around my neck and told me you want me to stay close to you. I told you I thought you hated being around me. You told me you didn't mean to say that, which of course I know you didn't. I told you I'm going to Utah tomorrow on an airplane with Joshua and Eleanor and you and Daddy will drive there to meet us in a few days (for you cousin, Cassidy's wedding). Your eyes filled with tears as you told me you don't want me to go and you will miss me. I know you love me and I certainly love you so much. The days can definitely be difficult but I am so very grateful you're my boy. I hope you know that. I am trying to teach you about respect, responsibility, patience, faith, kindness, as well as the educational things you need to know. I'm helping you with piano lessons and reading and adding in some play time for chasing and tickling. Sometimes we both get frustrated and lose our patience. Sometimes we need our space. But I'm grateful you're ours, buddy. I feel incredibly blessed.

A couple of weeks ago you started first grade. It's hard to believe in some ways. I love your happy, confident smile. You are enjoying school, including getting back to schedules and routines. You're growing up, little friend. You have so many wonderful things ahead of you. I'm so excited for your future!

I love you,

Thursday, June 30, 2016

Oliver quotes: April / May / June

  • "Wait, what's the plan again?"
  • "Who can say 'It's not a competition first?' I win!"
  • Oliver: "Alta no me gusta." Josh: Alomonyguska!"
  • You gave me a knowing look and said, "I know, I'm tired too."
  • You went on a Father/Son Campout with Daddy and when you came back, I was at your cousin, Isabel's, High School Graduation Party. You left me a sweet note on the counter and the next day you told me, "My heart felt cracked when I wasn't with you. I missed you so much." 

  • "What if you die and daddy dies? Can I have your phones?" 

Tuesday, April 5, 2016

March 2016

  • The other day you said something and then said, "Do you want to write that down?" You know I am a documenter. :) 
  • The other day, you said to me, "When I grow up, I want to marry you." 
  • We had a fun time at the Children's Museum when you had a day off from school this month. We went with your friend Linken. You love it there.